Detachment Is Key

Jul 18, 2013, Mindset

Detachment: it’s a key skill/art I learned from a mentor of mine. But what exactly is it? How do you define it? Let’s start with a little back story of where I’ve come from since when I first started building my business online a few years ago…

When I first began trying to build my business online, I would work for a while, then check to see if any results came of it. If nothing happened after a short amount of time, and constantly checking to see if something happened – traffic, leads, sales, commissions, etc. – I would get discouraged and automatically assumed that must not be working.

In hindsight, it’s easy to see it was a destructive negative cycle of a little bit of work followed by pressing refresh on the screen to look for a result, and then when nothing happened, on to another strategy.

Instead of picking one strategy to build my business, and plowing forward with it until I figured it out and had success with it, I would decide what I was doing wasn’t working after not seeing results in a short period of time.

Can you relate to that?

I think every new online marketer has been there.

You’ll find success SO much faster if you just pick one strategy – blogging, video, specific kinds of paid advertising on FB, Search, Solo ads, etc – and just keep working at that until results start coming in. But the key, again, is detachment.

It’s crazy how the universe works, how God holds out things we want for when we’re actually ready for it.

A mentor taught me to detach myself, my emotions, my energy, my attention, from the results coming out of my work…just let life flow and live in the present. DO the work necessary to create results, be productive and consistently active EVERY DAY…BUT don’t focus on watching for results in anticipation of something to happen quickly.

Results WILL come for you, if you consistently take action on the things necessary to produce those results…It’s just one of those inexplicable things that the more you sit there waiting for something to happen, the less it happens.

A lot like the old phrase, “a watched pot never boils.

I will admit it takes practice to move your focus away from watching for something to happen, to focusing only on the work you’re doing…at first it’s difficult, especially when you need money to come in quickly to fund your business efforts and allow you to keep going. I’ve been there, I understand.

But don’t worry about that. Just keep going, your dreams and future are worth it. No matter the obstacles and circumstances, even if you have to get/keep a job you don’t like temporarily to pay your bills, keep going…the end result in your business and your life will be WELL worth it!

It’s amazing…When I stopped worrying about what was happening in results, and I became completely detached from that, that’s when big results really started happening.

Today, I start each day knowing the things I need to do that are my income-producing activities. I do those things, and then after that do something enjoyable like a walk or jog, a movie, going to Starbucks, etc. This was hard for me at first too, because I had false constructs in my unconscious mind that drove me to work too much.

Growing up on a farm built inside me some things I’m very proud of: honesty, work ethic, and an understanding of the value of a hard day’s work…but along with it came some habits and mindset that had a negative impact as well. On the farm, there was ALWAYS work to be done, and a person who just sat around doing nothing was looked upon as a lazy person. There wasn’t much time for “down time”.

From that, I had a belief that if I hadn’t yet met my goals or reached the point in life where I want to be financially, I needed to keep working until I got there…If I took time off to relax and enjoy life I would feel guilty and lazy.

So in learning to detach myself from results, I also had to train my unconscious that it was okay to take time off, enjoy life, relax, spend time with my wife, friends, and family doing things we love. It was okay to do that, if I did the income-producing activities I needed to do for the day (which I’ve now boiled down to about 3 or 4 hours of work per day, the rest of the time I’m “working” is filler stuff).

My new schedule of daily events was: wake up, go for a morning run (and listen to positive audio), shower and clean up, do 3 to 4 hours of productivity, then do something to reward myself, something enjoyable and fun.

…It was THEN that results began to flow.

And the same will happen for you, when you focus on the work you’re doing, sticking with it until successful (make sure it’s the right activity in the first place, by doing what a mentor tells you will work for you, don’t question them and just do it), but detaching yourself from the results.

Now go forth, step into your power, and live the life of your dreams.

You can do it, I believe in you and have faith you can accomplish things far greater than you even imagine possible.

If my thoughts helped you, gave you an “ah ha” moment, or jolted you awake, please now leave your comments below. I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

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